At right: Award-winning journalist and radio host the wise & witty Celeste Headlee from her new book "We Need to Talk"
As part of my big hairy goal for 2018 to step forward more as a voice for active, mindful mobility I want to become a much better conversationalist.
Today I'm featuring the videos of award-winning journalist and radio host Celeste Headlee whose book "We Need to Talk" came out last fall.
There is a method to my madness. I believe through becoming better communicators we'll have the opportunity to create broader coalitions for creating culture shift - which is what we need to do if we truly want to create safer, more vibrant, less congested streets.
1. Come From a Place of Enoughness
For one day, one week, one month, or even one year invite yourself to come from a place of enoughness for wherever you usually feel you're lacking. For creating better conversations think of what "deciding that you have enough time and attention already" could allow to unfold for you.
I don't know about you but I talk too much in one on one conversations. I get so excited I just have to share and share and share because I think I'll never have another opportunity to tell this person all that is going on in my head right now that I really think they need to know.
I will. I can chill. I can stop talking and just listen. If I don't say everything I think that was important I can follow up in an email or a text.
Powerful things unfold in our lives when our family, friends, colleagues and even adversaries actually feel heard by us.
2. Put Away Your Cell Phone When Having One on One Conversations
Watch Celeste above as to why. Beyond being rude it actually harms us personally.
3. Actively Listen Rather than Passively Listen
I'm such a fan of Celeste I'm including her this week twice. Above for 60 seconds, at right for five minutes. She is so worth the watch - and I'm buying her new book "We Need to Talk" this week.
Passive listening is when we listen only until the person we're speaking to sparks an idea we want to talk about, and then we spend the rest of the conversation thinking about our own idea and how to inject it into the conversation.
Remember when I said start from a place of enoughness? What if one conversation at a time you decided you didn't need to say everything that came to mind?
This is such an important topic for me I'd love to hear what unfolds for you if you take becoming a better conversationalist on. Keep me posted!
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